where do I start and what can I expect ?
1. that first call
Making the first call during conflict can be difficult but it doesn't mean you are committing to separation, or even initiating the process. It's about gathering information and finding out where you're at individually.
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During our first call, we will spend time speaking about the potential issues to discuss and options for next steps. This call is strictly confidential and for the purpose of providing general information to assist in options.
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2. pre-mediation
The interim between that first call and your mediation session can seem extremely overwhelming and frankly terrifying. We are here to assist throughout the process to alleviate as many unknowns as possible.
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This is also a good time to begin gathering your financial disclosure and think about getting an appraised value on asset(s).
3. individual session
The individual session, also confidential, is devoted to what you, individually, hope to get out of your mediation. This is also the time to ask any clarifying questions, gather information for your situation, address your needs and values. Your mediator will assist in identifying potential positions and alternatives to your desires. You will work together to create agreeable and empowering positions you are comfortable with.
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4. individual session
Mediation often involves a series of sessions, during which the mediator navigates the conversation to ensure the parties address the legal issues at hand. These sessions are confidential and structured while constructively working toward a mutually acceptable solution.
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Individual Session - the mediator will meet one-on-one with both parties. This will allow a better understanding of what each individual hopes to get out of the process.​
5. joint session
Joint Session - throughout the process, negotiations take place with the goal of reaching a resolution. The mediator facilitates discussions, assists in generating options, and creative problem-solving. Parties have the opportunity to express their needs and concerns while actively participating in the decision-making process.
If an agreement is reached, it can be documented in a written agreement that is binding upon both parties.
6. settlement
​If an agreement is reached, it can be documented in a written agreement that is binding upon both parties.
Disclosure of Information
To facilitate the mediation process, parties may be required to provide relevant information and documents related to the dispute. This information exchange is crucial for understanding the facts and underlying interests, enabling a productive discussion during the mediation sessions.
Independent Legal Advice (ILA)
As a neutral third party, mediators cannot give legal advice. Our mediators' work very closely with family law lawyers and recommend seeking ILA if need be at any point during the mediation process.